Scenario: You have hurt your spouse or significant other on a deep and fundamental level. You cheated, you lied, you did something on a deep level… You either confessed or they found out, for this discussion I don’t think it really matters… You have apologized, made some sort of atonement, and given him/her time to heal. Yet, your spouse is unable to move past it. They constantly remind you of your indiscretion, of the hurt you caused them. They are unable to forgive you.
- How much time is enough time to allow for healing? days, months, years? In the mean time, how do you regain your self-respect and dignity?
- If they cannot forgive, is it your duty/obligation to stay with them since you were the one who made the mistake? To take whatever punishment they dole out?
- Does your mistake and their subsequent inability to forgive turn make the relationship toxic, and thus better for both people to end it?