Red and Stripe have moved into their condo and requested to start the kid schedule. At first, I felt myself dying inside. I’m going to miss the kids so much. They have been challenging at times but for the most part I have been thankful to have spent so much wonderful time with them. All five of them are beautiful inside and out and I cherish them! Then I resigned myself to as much as we may not care for them, the kids love their other parents and need to spend time with them as well. It’s part of their lives, not mine, not Papa’s. As parents, I think sometimes we forget or look past that our kids do have their own lives and in a situation like this, where parents are split apart, they have a life and a home with each family. We gave them an extra weekend because Stripe’s mother is still in town so the kids will be gone for a total of nine days. The new schedule that we all have agreed on is one week on and one week off. Hopefully it’ll be much better than every 2-3 days switching houses and the best part is I am now home to care for them during the day so no more Stripe watching them on our days. I tolerated that for a year but now there’s no way I could do that again.
I’m getting the work thing somewhat worked out so I can start working on working next week. It’s 100% commission so I’ll be working hard at trying to figure out exactly what I’m doing. Staying at home with the kids all the time and being completely responsible for the house is a whole new thing for me so part of me is glad to be getting a break and having the time to do some grown up stuff. My days are consumed with cleaning, putting dishes away, sweeping the floors, ironing Papa’s shirts, laundry, making meals, parenting and cleaning, cleaning, and more cleaning. It takes a lot of work to keep up with the housecleaning. Not complaining, not one bit. I actually don’t mind cleaning but with seven people in our home, it’s almost non-stop. With Papa working during the days, I’ll be able to get my much smaller chores done early and have the rest of the day to work for myself. At least until 2…
Because they don’t have a vehicle big enough to transport all the kids at once, they have asked that I help pick up until they are able to get their own family vehicle. Once Red found out his schedule we have worked it out that I will pick up the older girls from school 4 days a week and drop them off at their house. We have agreed to keep the peace and for the sake of the kids. At first I was not happy about it but Papa calmed me saying it’s only temporary after having explained my worries that I know Red well enough that he will take advantage of this for as long as he possible can. Papa understands my concerns and they will only have a certain amount of time before they need to get on their own two feet.
Now that things are getting settled, I let the couple we have been chatting with know that we now have our schedule worked out and have 2 weekends in a row freed up. At first, she said they would check their weekend schedule and let us know. Then…nothing… I inquired as to how their schedule was looking and…nothing…I told Papa I thought maybe I felt something was off. Late that night, he messaged and said they really want to meet us and they’re trying to move things around. Their texting patterns have changed drastically so Papa and I are thinking this is yet another couple who either got cold feet or they’re totally flakey. Like Papa said, “Eh, whatevs!” Lol. I told Papa I was Jack’s complete lack of surprise. I have no faith in couples or much in playing in general because we have been burned so many times. Today they said good morning and she said she’s been busy with work and homework etc. It’s just a hunch but I doubt anything comes of that.